We live in a world where we have to make faster and faster decisions with less and less information. The stakes can be high.
If inner cohesion is important to you, being in touch with yourself in different life situations, whether on a professional or personal ground, then you cannot forget about your body.
The 3 most important tools of personal integrity in 2023
- CENTERING
- GROUNDING
- BOUNDARIES
It is your body that provides you with these most important tools. They are available when you listen to your body. In any situation, you can appeal to your own body sensing, and these three tools will help you develop this skill.
In the body, you can feel your centering when you make decisions in harmony with yourself; It’s the sensations in the body that tell you when your boundaries are crossed and when they’re respected. It is the sensations in the body that tell you when to say “stop”.
Body sense is the same as a sense of being, a sense of being ourselves. It is our first identity that we develop as children. The child thinks and experiences with his/her whole body. Without a body, emotions do not have a container in which they can be and through which they can express themselves. Without a body, it is impossible to survive on earth, and this means that there is no possibility to experience life, learn, develop your abilities and consciousness.
The body is present when I feel my emotions.
I feel a cramp in my stomach when I’m scared. My jaws clench when I’m angry. When I’m happy or curious, I experience a tickle moving up and down my belly. Contact with the body requires closeness with oneself and taking care of oneself. Without it, we won’t sense the signals by which the body tells us how we react to what’s happening. And then we lose the ability to consciously relate to what is happening and make our own choices.
A person who has poor contact with the body is more likely to be overwhelmed by feelings and lose the ability to distinguish what is within their area of ability and what is outside it. Similarly, the sense of the body works when we think – it grounds our thoughts. When the feeling of the body does not hold thoughts, there is a risk that we will get lost in them or we will not be able to revive these thoughts – put them into action.
Use these tools. This can be a “game changer” in your functioning.
Where can you start now?
Ask yourself – what am I sensing in my body right now?
And ask yourself this question as often as possible in different situations. This is a good start.
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